I get asked this question all the time: “David, How do you know if a woman is attracted to you?” A lot of guys will say to me “I flirt with her, but I’m just not sure she’s into me.”
One of the best indicators that a woman is receptive to your flirtatious words is if you can get her to blush. So how do you get her to blush? Is there a magic word you need to say?
Remember when you were in about 5th grade and the little girls would tease one girl about a little boy she liked named Robbie by saying ” You like Robbie! You like Robbie!! Nah Nah Nah Nah Nah Nah!”
Let me tell you, we are no different than that little boy and little girl who had the crush. As an adult, you want to have a crush. A crush is fun. If you have a crush, you may blush.
So how do you make a little girl blush or, more importantly, how to you make a big girl blush? You need to playfully tease her. Maybe start off by finding out something about her and teasing her about it.
I met a woman one time who was a Virgo. When she told me she was a Virgo, I said to her “Forget it. Conversation over. I don’t date Virgos. You think too much.” I was teasing her. So then during the rest of the conversation, I proceeded to tease her a few more times about other things.
It’s funny, though, because the theme of the conversation kept coming back to how Virgos think too much and don’t like to change. She kept defending herself and saying that she was all about change. I actually have no idea if Virgos don’t like change.
The bottom line is this: When you’re flirting with women, you want to mix it up. You want playful banter, but you also want to find out about who they are and what makes them tick. That is called gathering information.
During a three minute conversation I had with with a woman while my friend went clothes shopping, I was able to find out a lot of things about her. Not surface things – real things.
I found out where she grew up, what she liked as a kid, and about her being shy as a kid (which, of course, I teased her about). The conversation was about learning what she likes to explore and do.
Instead of objectifying her like most guys do, I got to know her while my friend was shopping. Women want to meet men, but they do not want to feel like they just got picked up by a pick-up artist. So, now, most of you would like to know how I closed her when we were finished shopping.
Here’s the thing about closing somebody. If you pay attention to what they are saying, if you are interested in who they are, and if you mix those with fun and playful flirting… then they are already closed.
If they’re already closed, it means that they have already developed a secret little crush on you. If a woman has developed a secret crush on you and you ask her out in a fun way, she’s going to blush.
So how did I ask this woman out? She’s new to Los Angeles and told me she has 2.5 friends here, so I looked at her and said ” You really need more than 2.5 friends. I’m going to give you a tour of LA and show you all the places you’ve never been to (which I knew because I’d already asked her).” She then gave me her phone number and, as she did, she blushed.
So that’s how you make a woman blush. You do it by being playful and fun, and asking her out using things she’s already told you during your conversation.
By the way, I made another woman blush earlier that day. I playfully teased her that her dog didn’t find me attractive, but she ejected from the conversation too quickly because she was shy and because I was teasing her. As she ejected, though, she got all red… and blushed.